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Tackling difficulties and overcoming the challenges life serves up – by Dona Halliday

Archive for August, 2011

In the meantime and in-between time

Plant hope, faith, peace, obedience, common sense and gratefulness in in between times

Be patient with the process

Are you at the place you want to be? How are you handling the in-between time on your way there. I confess, I don’t like the uncertainty of in-between things, this flux of not being here but not quite there. I hate just-below-the-knee dresses. I like my dresses preferably short…, or long. I don’t understand capris, even though I wear them occasionally I take issue with this indecisive garment that can’t decide if it wants to be long or short. It’s unusual for me to buy 1, 2 or 3 inch heels, I like my shoes the way I like my shoes. I find this length of my natural hair somewhat challenging, though it’s growing it is in this in-between stage of being neither long nor short.

But don’t get confused, these are just external, minor, in-between things that I can control to a certain extent. Much of life can find us in “in-between” places dealing with things beyond our control, yet, we have to learn to flourish in these places.

Here are 6 seeds to plant in the soil of “in-betweeness”:

Hope: We don’t all start out on the same playing field, don’t let that make you bitter. Hope in God, seek him in your planning, commit yourself to work your plan, and be steadfast.

Faith: Though this is not a guarantee against pain or hardship it guarantees that the object of our faith, God, loves us, and can take the challenging and the painful and work them for our good and His glory

Peace: Remind yourself of what God says, it will remind you of why you can have peace even in challenging times

Obedience: Offer God the right to yourself, surrender everything of you to him and obey His word.

Common sense: If it took years of unwise decisions to get you to a certain place, be patient with the rectification process, adhere to wise principles and stay committed to change

Gratefulness: Take time and correct faulty thinking. Be thankful! not for everything but in every situation give thanks, the unchanging factor is God.


Hair comes trouble!

Natural hair causes trouble?

Natural Hair Troublemakers

Why don’t you go fix your hair? You look like trouble! That my friends is the voice of my serious nature, my predominant self. I don’t think I was always so serious but at some point in my life I turned into a serious child and then a very serious teenager. As a matter of fact my love for play normally only becomes very evident when I step out of my high heels and slip on sneakers, that is until now… Until I made that transition back to the natural texture of my hair that seemingly released a much more fun-loving me.

“If you don’t behave yourself I’ll straighten your hair and pull it back into a bun,” threatened my serious self. “What did I do?” countered my natural hair self. I really had not done anything. What had happened was that earlier that day there I was in a conversation with this beautiful brown brother, smiling, laughing and being all chatty. ME, being chatty! When he said he loved my outfit, it looked very artistic, I had struck a poise and when he had commented on my shoes I had done a little foot modeling to showcase them.

Miss Serious had butted in with “WHO are you, and what do you think you are doing?” My natural hair self had responded, “I have not done it for a while, but I think I might be flirting.” That’s when the threats had started.

To make matters worse a few weeks prior I had been going about my business not paying attention to anything else in particular when I had run across this other brown brother who I’ve known for over a year. I had not paid him much attention even though my friends thought him handsome and said he was interested, but that day my natural haired self upon seeing him had released a mentally approving “Oooooo”sound as he stood around in a little jersey top and bottom…(obviously I have to develop my descriptive self).

As I relayed the incident to a very close friend I had her in stitches, maybe not so much because of what I was saying but maybe more so because I don’t normally have those conversations. This friend is the one who told me the material I cover in my writing is normally very heavy so this is my attempt to step on the lighter side.

I love both my serious and my fun nature because they help to balance me. However, on behalf of my natural hair self I say to my serious self the trouble I want to cause has nothing to do with my hair or my appearance. I want to cause the Elijah kind of trouble, the Paul and Silas kind of trouble…

I want to trouble those who trouble the weak, the helpless and the innocent, where I not only take a stand against injustice but I stand for justice, where daily my life is surrendered and consecrated so completely to Christ that He can freely accomplish through me anything He desires, where I show up, live up, step up, speak up, love up, lift up, until transformation takes place.

…For, if darkness considers light to be troublesome then look out, for by the power of God, HERE COMES TROUBLE!

Religion: Finding safety in the enemy’s territory

Sunday after Sunday she shows up to church, sings in the choir and helps with the children, she then heads home, and in another attempt to keep her husband, plies her young daughter with alcohol so that her husband can once again have sex with their child…

She hates going home, she dreads being left alone with her father and his friends, she’s only 9 years old but she has been called every degrading thing you can thing about by her dad. She’s just a child, but her innocence was stolen a long, long time ago….

They were just young boys, twins, who were sent to church I guess to learn about God, instead, they became prey and were molested by the priest their family trusted….

She’s been abused physically and emotionally by a husband who openly cheats on her, she goes to church and says she loves God but she wonders sometimes if she could get away with killing her husband…

Blow the trumpet in Zion, SOUND THE ALARM….

For while we are caught up in our women’s day services — choosing what colors to dress up in and having hat contests — women are shouting right along side us then going home and making compromises that would blow our minds; while we are debating about the clothes our children are wearing and pointing our fingers at all that’s wrong with the youth of today our children are being broken and harmed in the places they should find safety. While we are doing church as usual, people are dying.

Blow the trumpet in Zion, sound the alarm… Rend your heart and not your garments and return to the Lord your God…

What happens when our lives are threatened in the places where we should find protection?

David was in such a situation when King Saul was trying to destroy him. The bible says that David took refuge in the enemy’s territory, among the Philistines. I’m convinced that this is the trick of the enemy to make the places where we should be nurtured, loved, protected, where words of life should be spoken into us, become places from which we feel the need to escape , and persuade us to run to the enemy for safety.

The problem here is that King Achish, though he gave David a location where he could escape Saul’s attack, he saw this man that God had destined to be a king, as his servant. As a matter of fact he thought to himself that David had become so offensive to his own people, the Israelites, that he would never return home and he would remain his servant forever.

It’s painful and heart-breaking that some have to face the kind of challenges they do, and it hurts because there are no easy solutions. When Adam and Eve scoffed at the idea that sin brings death they could never have imagined that their choices would plunge the rest of humanity into a life-cycle of physical and spiritual death, brokenness, pain and destruction. I believe that today, when we make choices against God’s will that the wages of sin have not changed, when we sin something dies and sometimes it’s not only in our lives.

I don’t know how a mother could make her daughter an object for her husband to take advantage of, or why a dad would be so hateful toward his young child, why broken and wicked men who claim to represent God pass on their of brokenness to others, or why husbands and wives hardly seem to have lasting love in their relationships. One thing I know for sure is that running to the enemy is never the solution, for the enemy may know our potential but he will always offer us less than what we have been destined to become.

The Good News is that God restores, through the death and resurrection of his Son Jesus, the broken, hurting and those who have made messes of their lives and the lives of others can find restoration, they can go home again. In addition, He offers His power to destroy the patterns of broken behaviour and the power of sin in our lives so that we don’t have to be the ones passing on the cycle of brokenness to others.

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