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Tackling difficulties and overcoming the challenges life serves up – by Dona Halliday

Pour some honey on me… winning with our words

May our words be always as sweet as honey, healing to the bones...

Win with your words

Dear Lord! I can’t believe I had gotten so angry. I had thrown out the “I” word combined with an “F” word and I knew from my response we weren’t heading for a win-win solution.

About 5 minutes prior, I had pushed my chair from my desk and as I headed for the door I heard myself in a deceptively quiet tone announce to the person on the other end of the line, “I’m getting very angry.”

“Are you saying that you sent me a bill, it came back to you saying the address was incorrect so you sent it to collections? I asked in disbelief. My heart was pounding loud now, my tone not so quiet, I was angry. This was the office of the specialist who had been treating my shoulder. “Did it occur to you to call me to verify my address?” I asked, “and what address did you send it to?”

After several seconds of the sound of papers been shuffled she replied, “I can’t tell you that, all I know is that it came back so we sent it to collections.”

“This is why I do not do business with Ignorant Folk! I responded angrily…

One of my disciplines — When caught in a disagreement, focus on solutions and never resort to personal attacks and name calling. So what had gone wrong, what had fueled my angry?

1. …you send ME to collections? – P R I DE
2. …you choose actions that could mess up my credit? – F E A R

These 2 emotions, pride and fear, have been the cause of many hurtful words and have destroyed many relationships. Sticks and stones can cause broken bones but hurtful words have wounded and broken many a spirit.

The next day I had stopped in at the specialist’s office and apologized for my harmful words. They had apologized for the error on their end, saying they had dropped the ball and on checking their files they had not sent me to collections.

How easily we can misrepresent our Lord and dishonor His creation when we are not wise stewards of our words. I’m reminded of the wise man, King Solomon who said, “Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.” Come, let me pour some honey on you…


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